How to bounce back from ‘fall outs’ and rejection as a sensitive

(even with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) 

I thought I would write a blog. The first one in ages. I will admit I tried to go down the route of AI in the past few months… or pay someone to do it but the words need to be mine. It is hard to write when you are silencing yourself through fear. Fear of what I am still not sure but fear to the ninth degree. I knew I needed to do something but I didnt want ‘me’ to be visible as I felt vulnerable. I can now see that silencing yourself helps no one. The people you were trying to please will find something else to get annoyed at and all you have done is loose valuable time.. So if you are hiding any part of your beautiful self right now.. I urge you to keep taking steps into the light and shine as bright as you can as the world NEEDS YOU more than ever. IT is a very heavy and horrible world at the moment .. and for sensitives incredibly painful so the world NEEDS to know there are people like you out there to give them some reassurance. 

And this blog is not to sell you a candle or get you to come to a healing session with me but because I believe what I have learnt may help you and want to share so that others who have suffered at the hands of extreme sensitivity may find some repreve too. 

You see life happens. Things that were lovely very quickly turn sour. Sometimes because of something we have done and others we will never have a clue why. Perhaps someone didn’t like what you wore one day or listened to idle gossip. Perhaps they are just having a bad day… It is not ours to question.  Just observe. 

It is however our responsibility to learn to heal ourselves so that we don’t take up camp in that energy. 

There was a time when one client talking about me behind my back sent me into a spin for months and months. Of course I knew I was over reacting but that doesn’t make the emotions, in that moment, any less real or painful. 

What I realized now is that perhaps my pain is perhaps more intense initially… to the point where I have just had sickness, dizziness and an upset tummy for two days but energetically I have now cleared it. TWO DAYS…. Instead of two months (and if I am honest perhaps two years in some instances) 

Here is what helps me… I hope it helps you too. 

Soul Perspective

Understand that it is all our souls playing their parts. It is never personal. People will be sent to challenge you to help you grow. It doesn’t make it any less painful however it is an essential part of growing into who you are here to become. So I try and take myself out of the situation, hover above and look at it as if there were two souls who have entered a ‘game’ as it were. 

Two souls who have either been tasked with pushing each other to a limit to show you what you are capable of OR  helping you to fall apart a little so you can grow into the next ‘level’ . A seed needs to crack open for the plant to grow… and many other analogies like it. We can not grow if we do not crack in places. 

When we take our egos out of the mix then we get to heal through it rather than harboring anger and taking it with us on our journey and spreading it to others like a sticky treacle. It is like the old saying.. Anger is like taking the poison and hoping your enemy will die. It serves no one EXCEPT as a sign post to what needs healing with in you. 

Compassion

Not an easy one to try and hold compassion for those that hurt you but try and remember that it is rarely ever personal AND we also have to acknowledge that if we have sensitive dysmorphia then it is likely slightly ‘dialled’ up in our head so make allowances for that.  Also if if they are causing you harm then it could be because they are not in a good place themselves or perhaps are unaware. 

So try and send them love and light. Again when in that souls perspective hover above them and give them a lovely clearing white sparkly shower. They won’t know but perhaps they may soften and realize they are loved too. 

I also want you to have compassion for yourself. I want you to see that anything you are feeling is OK and a part of being human. Have compassion for your bruised soul and give it what it needs to feel better. For me I shut up shop for the day.. I was either going to vomit on someone or faint so gave my body what it needed… a full binge of bridgeton while working on the website in bed. Obviously that didn’t shift anything and only started to feel better when I worked on it energetically but did stop my tears! 

Communicate

I find this helps.. Not sure if this is something you should do but it helps me. When I embarrass myself instead of hiding I tell EVERYONE  I meet. When I am hurt I take to paper because it is ‘better out than in’ I feel that all the problems are the ones which linger unspoken in the shadows. The untruths and the manipulation must all be unseen in order to work. If it is spoken either in word or written then it is out there and can not hide any more. It somehow takes the heat out of it for me. Not to name and shame as that serves no one but to express how you feel. Firstly others may feel the same and there is comfort in knowing you are not alone. WRiting also helps you to process things in a way that thought alone can not. Even if you journal privately, write a letter and burn it or share with your friends… Get it out of your head and into some sort of communication so that you can start to untangle what is happening in the light. 

Energy Clearing

Just a simple pendulum can work wonders….and is so easy to learn.  It can help you balance your energy in your body. It can clear energy of situations and people. It can cut chords and answer questions. If I had one tool that I had to keep.. It would be this. 

You can also turn to crystals and perhaps keep a rose quartz with you…and some black tourmaline for protection.  I also play my heart chakra singing bowl and basically turn to ALL the woo until I feel grounded and safe again. 

Pulling an oracle or tarot card also works for me. Just to have a conversation with something a little higher vibrational that what is playing out on earth. 

Music is another energy changer so if in doubt pop a good tune on and let the music help you shake it all off! 

I think that is most of it… In a nutshell just take yourself out of it and turn your attention to the energy around it. Don’t stay in the physical realm and fight it out like animals as nothing good will ever come from it. Try and stay grounded and know that you deserve to be safe and happy. 

Also know that until we face these fears then these ‘avatars’ will keep visiting you and pushing you until you level up.. A bit of a pain in the arse but when you see it you can’t help but laugh when you are ‘there’ yet again and never saw it coming. I liken it to Mr Smith in the Matrix… it is like this avatar takes over people in your life and changes them.. You never know who will be next.. A vision which made me giggle!

Just try and hold it all lightly.. see it for what it is and try and move through the energy as soon as possible as you don’t deserve any less.